Get your grove back, Momma!

So, you are a first time mom or you probably have or will be giving birth to your 2nd or 3rd or 4th child and you feel that you are stuck in the middle of nowhere and you look yourself in the mirror and start crying. Momma, stop! Please stop!

Look around you, you just gave birth to another human being who might have the potential of being the next president of your country, or you might be raising a doctor or a successful business tycoon, you gave birth to that little bundle of joy, don't feel so bad. Or maybe you can, but you are still raising a tiny human being and that is amazing.

Like you, I am a first time mom, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl who is turning 5 in a couple of days. The first time we learned that I was pregnant, I wasn't scared, but I already thought of how I want to raise her, I was gaga over it, and all moms probably have gone through it. Then there was the non-stop eating whatever you want and whine if you don't get it, then sleepless nights and more sleepless nights after she was born. Now, I never really felt that I was doing my job as a mom since I left her when she was 3 months old and went overseas for work, I went home after 2 months and I was a stranger to my own daughter, and that hurt me. But I had to work, I want to be the "working type kind of mom" and it wasn't easy.

So I had to give it some thought and ask my husband if we ( I ) can stop working so I can be a full time mom, and he said we can afford it. I quit my job to do another job and that is being a hands on mom, and it was crazy!

I will no longer enumerate how my days went on, I will be telling that to you in a different blog, because this entry is all about: YOU!

There will be days that you will feel like crap! You haven't taken a bath, a decent bath where no one is calling you every 2 minutes, or you forgot about drinking your coffee or haven't brushed your teeth, yep, it does happen.

Now, we might have different views on how to get our groove back, and these were mine.

Pray. Pray before you go to sleep and pray when you wake up. Ask God to give you the strength that you need to make you the most powerful super human being that is out there.

Get up, fix your hair and smile. No explanation needed. You don't want your kids to see Momzilla going down the stairs.

You are the authority. Feel like one. So if you need to drink your coffee, go right ahead. Tell the kids, that Mommy needs her cup of coffee. If they bug you and they start pulling each others hair, give them a time out, or if leave them alone. This might sound so bad to you, but then when you pretend that you don't hear anything, they will stop. A good 5 minutes of peace is something you deserve.

After getting everyone ready and once everyone leaves, take a seat and make that second cup of coffee. Turn on the music and put your feet up. Have another 10 minutes of peace.

Take a nice shower, clean yourself pretty good, fix your hair and put a little make-up on. Or you can do a full make-up if you want, you are already pretty as you are but a little blush here and there won't hurt you.

And before you start your daily routine, take a deep breath, look around you. You should be proud because you are one hell of a supermom, keeping things clean and nice and you are raising wonderful children. You gave birth to these tiny humans and that makes you the most amazing person in the world.

You have to admit, us, moms keep it together, it will be a chaos without us.