Wrong Friends, Bad Company, Good Friends, Good Times - Part One
You probably heard the saying, "show me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are."
I am 38 and I have seen them all.
You can never be too sure of your friends, you cannot conclude that your husband's or boyfriend's friends are also your friends, but one thing is for sure, you cannot really tell their kind until they do something really bad to you.
I meet a lot of people every day, I made a few travels and found new acquaintances, some stay for a very long time, and some will just pass by and say "hello". I will go first with the good ones. I will save the best for last!
I am really excited to write about this one, I hope that my "friends" will be able to read this.
I never had a bestfriend, I had close friends but not a best friend until I was 19. I waited for 19 years to find the perfect fit. I was given three.
THE BOLD - He is fun and he will definitely kill for you, well not really kill but he can hurt the person, slim chances that he can be a murderer and I am okay with that. He fought for me several times and I wouldn't mind returning the favor just in-case. He was the first one that I met among the 3, I was working as a radio DJ and he would always visit the radio station. Have we fought? We haven't. We argue, but we never fight. For God sakes, we share men. Sort of. He speaks whatever is on his mind with no disregard if he might offend anyone, he is just saying the truth and the truth hurts. I keep him because he keeps me grounded, he makes sense, among the three he is the smartest. We haven't seen each other for a while but regardless of the lost time and the distance, I know that when I need him, maybe it a phone call, chat or email, I know that he is going to be there for me.
THE KIND - we were introduced to each other by the BOLD one. They were friends first. Asking her to pick 3 adjectives and pick the best one took her almost 5 minutes. Is she kind, yes! All the time. She will have her heart broken several times, but she wouldn't fight back. We do that for her. I want to keep her because she has the potential to be a good mother. And when I die, I will let her take care of my little one. She is also very generous. She has given us gifts that you can never imagine. She would spend thousands of pesos for us. But that's not why I am also keeping her. I am keeping her because she will never take sides. She will always be there to listen, she keeps us on neutral. If I have a chance, I want her to be my sister, she will be the older one. Have we fought, nope. Not even once. When she left to work overseas, it broke our hearts. Not because she left, but because she never told us that she is leaving. She makes sure that everyone is well taken care of, her family, her friends and us. It's been ages since the last time I saw her. But I know that nothing will change, just our weight.
THE STRONG- she was a colleague turned friend turned godmother of my child. She is taking so long to pick an adjective for herself, so I am picking for her. And this is how I see her. She is strong. A little hard-headed. Everyone says left, she goes right, we say low, she goes high. She fought for love. She has a habit of falling in-love with the wrong person. Pretty similar with Ms. KIND, but that's okay. We will fall in-love with the wrong person once in our lifetime. She is strong because she will fight you and fight you hard. She will hit you in the right spot until you bleed, her children made her strong. She has evolved, we used to make fun of her Hello Kitty hairclips and strange taste in fashion. When the four of us talk, we will all end up mocking her, and that's okay. Have we fought, yes. Several times, there was even a time that I threaten to slap her. It didn't happen. I want to keep her so she can help Ms KIND when its time. I am keeping her because I know that she will fight for me.
I like to keep them all 3. And I want to keep them as long as I can. I like to keep them because we are like each other's pieces to the puzzle. We keep each other complete.
We have been the best of friends for as long as I can remember, 17 years, I think. And I couldn't wait where our next 17 years will take us.
To my girls, you are loved. Very much.
